Emotional awareness is best inculcated from an early age by encouraging qualities like sharing, thinking about others, putting oneself in another person's shoes, giving individual space and the general principles of cooperation. There are toys and games available to increase emotional intelligence, and children who do not do well in social settings are known to perform significantly better after taking SEL (Social and Emotional Learning) classes. Adult EQ can also be enhanced, although to a limited extent through effective coaching.
There are some conditions like high functioning autism (HFA) or Asperger's where one of the symptoms may be low-empathy. While some studies found that adults with Asperger's have low-empathy, there are have been studies with control groups that indicate EQ can be changed in individuals with HFA or Aspergers.
IQ is more of a genetic make, but there are several ways to tap an individual's IQ to its highest potential through brain-food and mental ability exercises like puzzles, lateral thinking problems, and problem-solving techniques that make you think outside the box.
''FUITS'' YOU NEVER HEARD OF
How to be inspired day by day
1. FEED YOUR CURIOSITY.
Noticing new details is a perpetuating cycle. The more we pay attention to details around us, the more we discover and want to pay attention. "After a weekend or so of exploring, after looking around three or four or 20 miles from home, the explorer grasps at the magic peculiar to riding with eyes and mind open," writes Stilgoe.
2. LEARN TO MANAGE RISKS AND FIND A BALANCE.
Letting yourself step away from your work to take a walk shouldn't be an activity reserved for only sunny beautiful afternoons. What if you went out in the rain, in the cold, in the snow? "Direct contact, face-to-face with warm breezes and freezing rain, sometimes vulnerable, the explorer learns to weigh risk, to balance exertion and danger and discovery and relaxation," writes Stilgoe. Coming into contact with the most basic of resistance—a strong wind or a storm—boils what it means to face a challenge down to its most basic elements.
3. START TO UN-PROGRAM YOUR THINKING.
We tend to follow a regimented schedule, even when we are taking time away from work to exercise. Yoga at six. The treadmill for half-an-hour. Kickboxing every Tuesday night. What if, on occasion, you allowed that time of exercise to be unregimented? According to Stilgoe: "Unprogrammed exercise and a rediscovery of what schools and employers and television and computers suffocate blend into some larger whole that reorients the mind, that offers a reward greater than any posted by pure physical exercise."
4. MAKE CREATIVE EXPLORATION YOUR M.O.
Make a habit of noticing the details around you, of going out of your way to make small new discoveries and you will notice that they begin to appear almost on their own. This doesn't require changing the entire way you live your life. It's a subtle shift. "Exploration is a second nature," writes Stilgoe, "easy enough to recover any weekday evening, any Sunday morning, any hour snatched away from programmed learning, from the webs and nets that invisibly and insidiously snare."